I think you need to go back to counseling. It takes a long time. He can’t epecxt that after a few counseling sessions, you’ll feel all better about your son’s death. If they were born about a year ago, and he was seven months old when he died, it’s been less than about six months, and that may seem like a long time, but it’s not. The fact that you still have one of the twins could actually be making it harder to grieve in a way, because your living child could be serving as a constant reminder of your lost child, and the desire to celebrate her life could be clashing with the need to grieve your other child’s death.It’s gonna take time, and work, and patience, and it probably would be best for you to get counseling seperately and together, and perhaps it would be a good idea to join a support group for grieving parents. I’m so sorry, no words offered here can express the sympathy and . I can’t think of the right word pity (?) I have for you.It’s not the exact same thing, but my stepsister died at the age of 22 years old, and I know my stepmom went through a period of withdrawl from my dad for a while. He’s kind of thick-headed, and it just didn’t seep in when she tried to explain what was going on, because her feelings were so unsteady. What did help, though, was when someone else he respected, who had gone through a similar issue, talked to him and stressed the importance of patience while my stepmom got through the initial shock and the depression that came later. This is where a good counselor, doctor, or someone from a support group could really be good here.My thoughts are with you.